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Now in its seventh run, "Emotional Wisdom with Essential Oils" has been described as a deeply transformative experience by many who have taken it. This 12-week experiential course begins August 1st.

With Father's Day in mind, here are some tips for understanding and relating to the men in your life.

Feeling Worthless is one of the emotions that can be released with Frankincense Essential Oil.

Do you tend to see things that others don't notice? Are you continually looking for your own way of doing things? Do you have a witty, rebellious side just beneath the surface? Find out if you are an Eye body type.

As always, I hope and trust that these newsletters help you enjoy a happier, healthier life.


Health and Happiness,
Dr. Carolyn Mein

“Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus” was a seminal book in describing the stereotypical differences in the way men and women approach relationships and communication.

The reality is that the key to understanding and relating to others is the personality profile for their body type, which reveals their innate nature in depth.


It Begins with Dad

Our initial experience of what men are like begins with Dad. It doesn’t matter if that’s our biological father or another male influence, that prevalent male figure is our first contact with men and establishes our early impressions of men.

What do we learn from Dad? The father figure represents self-expression, how we express ourselves into the world. This encompasses drive, goals, motivation, accomplishment, and success. That’s why we tend to seek Dad’s approval, or live up to (what we perceive to be) his standards and expectations of us, early in life. When we think we fall short of this, we may judge ourselves to be Worthless (see Frankincense, below.)

Ultimately, it’s about learning to define our own standards for self-approval. In a sense, we become our own father figure to our inner child that seeks approval.

Vibrationals are a homeopathic remedy that make changes on the cellular level, in the dream state while you sleep. While essential oils bring things into conscious awareness and focus (emotional and physical), then filter into the mental and spiritual bodies, Vibrationals begin with the mental and spiritual, then filter into the emotional and physical. Vibrationals are more subtle but can have a profound effect, accessing cellular memory while you sleep.

The Father Genetics Vibrational helps to amplify the positive qualities you want to strengthen and let go of the “at worst” traits.


Understanding the Men in Your Life

We tend to expect that others think the same way that we do – or that we can “teach” them to understand us, or to interact differently with us. The truth is that personality types cover a very broad spectrum, and different ways of thinking are innate and patterned. Understanding the men in your life is made easy with the body type personality profiles.

The personality profile for each body type condenses 20 years of introspection into 4 pages. It allows you to identify traits and patterns in others much more quickly than through the accumulation of experience.

This allows you to understand him on a deeper level – the characteristic traits spell out the true essence of who he is, beneath any façade that he may present to you. The “at worst” characteristics show what he’s capable of, while the “at best” characteristics show his potential.


Relating to Men

The personality profiles for men and women are the same. Men and women with the same body type share the same basic personality – they “speak the same language” but with a polarization towards a masculine vs. a feminine expression of the personality traits and characteristics.

Relationships are almost always between two people having different body types, and different personalities. The differences between personality profiles outweighs the difference between masculine or feminine expression, particularly in how we relate to each other.

The personality profiles for different body types contain deep insights that expose our fundamental differences. Understanding these innate patterns in others can enable us to communicate and relate better in his language.

The differences in relationships often result from differences in passions, motivations, and challenges between different body types. The way we handle these differences determines the effect they have on a relationship. Differences can result in conflict, or they can be seen as complementary traits and opportunities for mutual support.

Knowing his Core Emotional Issues allows you to navigate around his “trigger points” – which he may not even consciously recognize. These “hot buttons” are so engrained that often we don’t see them in ourselves, and we don’t realize how our reaction comes across to others or affects them.

The profiles provide invaluable insight into his passions, motivations, and how he makes decisions. Ultimately this insight can help you understand how to relate to him better. Once you’ve learned how to relate to him, your relationships with all men having the same body type become easier to navigate and enjoy.

Feeling worthless is an emotion most experience from time to time, but for the Eye body type it is a Core Emotional Issue.

It may begin externally – being called worthless by others. When it comes from someone we look up to or rely upon in some way – a parent, supervisor, teacher, or some other role we respect – we tend to give it more credence.

Or it may come from within – we may feel that we failed at something, weren’t enough, or fell short.

Regardless of why or how the emotion originated, it is a self-judgment. If someone else tells us we are worthless, we don’t feel it unless we agree in some way and go into self-judgment.

The other side – the higher vibrational emotion – of Worthless is Approval. When we achieve self-Approval, we release the emotion of feeling Worthless. Rather than looking for approval from outside source, real approval comes from within, comes from knowing your own value. The way out is simply “I am valuable.”

Frankincense essential oil holds the vibration of Approval, which assists in moving from Worthless to Approval.


Emotions Stored in the Gums / Teeth

Where do you start when addressing your emotions? The body provides clues. Pay attention to what your body is telling you. Specific emotions are stored in those areas of the body which are a vibrational match.

For example, when you notice a problem with the Gums or Teeth, what is the message? The body alarm points section in “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils” provides a cross-reference. You can also look up related emotions by selecting the body alarm point from the dropdown list in Oils Lookup.

The emotions stored in the Gums or Teeth are Worthless (above), and also being Taken for Granted. I always like to look at the commonality between emotions connected to the same part of the body. In this case, both have to do with your interpretation of your own value.

Ultimately it all comes down to the self, and the judgment, beliefs or value we acknowledge for the self. When we feel Taken for Granted, it is an indicator to look within, to see and to honor our self-worth. Taken for Granted transmutes into feeling Honored using Present Time essential oil blend, with “I honor myself.”


Other Emotions Cleared with Frankincense

Frankincense clears these other emotions as well – notice the common theme they share related to recognizing your own value, and standing up for yourself:

• Bullied – the message is about finding our own strength; Bullied transmutes into Strong
• Dizziness (or Vertigo) – is a sense of feeling off balance, or a loss of direction; the message is about finding or defining our Direction
• F--- you – is the ego protecting the self; this may be about identity, or even physically surviving; transmutes into Detachment

More About Frankincense Essential Oil

Frankincense Essential Oil increases spiritual awareness, promotes meditation, improves attitude, uplifts spirit and centering. Frankincense contains sesquiterpenes which stimulate the limbic system of the brain (the center of memory and emotions) and the hypothalamus, pineal and pituitary glands. The hypothalamus is the master gland which supports the thyroid and produces many vital hormones.

Frankincense is extracted from the inner bark of Boswellia trees, which are native to Africa and the Middle East. It has been valued and traded for millennia. Women in ancient Egypt used it as an eyeliner to produce the iconic look we are familiar with. With its spicy, woodsy aroma with a hint of fruit, it has long been used for incense and religious practices.