Hello Readers,

In honor of Mother's Day I look at the most common cause of relationship problems - expectations - and how to move past those.

I am introducing a new emotion this month - Prejudice - which transmutes to Openness with Acceptance essential oil.

Do you easily get depressed without sunlight (more so than most other people)? Do you talk aloud to collect or focus your thoughts? Is your head small in relation to your body? Then you may be a Pineal body type.

LeeYen Anderson and I will be presenting an essential oils workshop "Emotional Harmony at Home" on Thursday July 17, in conjunction with the Young Living Conference. This will be in Salt Lake City, and will be in-person only (not live-streamed).

My 12-week Practitioner’s Certification course “Emotional Wisdom with Essential Oils” begins on October 1. This will be the 6th run of this course which has been popular with individuals as well as practitioners.

As always, I hope and trust that these newsletters help you enjoy a happier, healthier life.


Health and Happiness,
Dr. Carolyn Mein

The Mother-Child relationship is foundational to our experience of life. It is usually our closest relationship during our most formative, most impressionable, and most dependent years.

This relationship is shaped by natural, innate expectations on both sides: mothers often expect their children to be “mini versions” of themselves in some way, and they expect to be able to easily relate to them. Children, meanwhile, expect their mothers to understand them and to anticipate their needs – even before gaining the ability to communicate their needs and wants effectively (or at all).

These expectations continue throughout life and carry over into all our relationships as kids, then teens, then adults.

Our expectations of others often form in the very root expectation that everyone should think, act, react, and behave the way that we do. Growing past this type of expectation is the way to improve all relationships – intimate, family, friends, and colleagues. Expectations set relationships up for failure.

How can we move past Expectations? The other side of Expectations is Appreciating. The way to appreciate is to understand that the soul contract of a mother is to get us here and standing on our own feet in life; anything beyond that is a gift. That mental realization is the first step.

The next step is to clear the cellular memory with essential oils. Expectations are stored in the 2nd (sacral) chakra, which is related to relationships. The other side of Expectations is Appreciating. Use SARA essential oil, and the way out is “I am complete within myself.”

When you can appreciate Mom as an adult without further expectations, you can enjoy the relationship with her in a brand new way.

Other tools you may find helpful are Chakra Harmony, for tuning all the chakras, or the Mother Genetics Vibrational, for resolving relationship conflicts on a deeper level.

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Happy Mothers Day!

This is a new Emotion that will appear in the next edition of “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils.” It is already in Oils Lookup.

What is “prejudice?” It means to “pre-judge.” It is very natural for us to treat new experiences, or people, based on a bias or judgement that we carry from a previous situation which appears very similar. In doing so, we limit ourselves from receiving the value of what that experience holds.

New experiences and people appear in our lives for a reason. To gain the most from the new experience or encounter, we need to be open to looking at it for what it is, with fresh eyes. Instead, what often happens, is that it reminds us in some way of a past experience. At that point we tend to pre-judge that we already know the outcome, how it will turn out, and in this way we disregard it as a new opportunity – we automatically assume it will turn out a certain way. We then miss out on the gift or the purpose of the new experience.

Importantly, this applies to people as well as experiences. Just because a new person we encounter reminds us of someone from the past, doesn’t mean they are like them.

The other side of Prejudice is Openness. Acceptance essential oil blend holds the vibration of Openness and helps to move to that vibration from Prejudice. The way out is “I am inclusive” to reinforce that we are not discarding experiences and are instead fully embracing each new opportunity.

Prejudice is stored in the spinal column – and it is held in cellular memory. Clearing remnants of cellular memories helps to keep us Open to new experiences and people.

Whenever clearing an emotion that has come up for you, always look at the other emotions associated with that oil and clear those as well. Whether you’re consciously aware of it or not, these emotions are often at play as well since they share a common vibration. When you clear out all the emotions, you are clearing that vibration entirely from your energy field.

You can find the related emotions listed in “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils” in the Oils Reference section. Or, if you are subscribed to Oils Lookup, select the oil from the dropdown, to see a list of the emotions – click each one for the full clearing procedure, including charts for the body acupuncture points.

The emotions related to Prejudice are Disapproval, Embarrassed, Insecurity, Misperception, Sorrow, and Don’t Belong. These emotions are all related to pre-judging a present experience based upon the past, and in particular, to how we interpreted or reacted to that past experience.

Learn more about Acceptance essential oil in my Newsletter Archives.