Stress is the other side of Calm and Relaxed. Stress is connected to the Sympathetic, active, energetic part of the nervous system, the part that mobilizes energy for quick action – the fight/flight response. It’s the Parasympathetic part of the nervous system that is connected with the feeling of being calm and relaxed. The Paratympanic nervous system is responsible for bodily functions like digestion and elimination, as well as the cranial nerves that involve the senses including hearing and seeing. Obviously, both sides of the nervous system and the emotions are essential. The question is how do we maintain balance, or come back into balance once we recognize we are off or stuck.
What causes us to get out of balance?
Getting stuck in the sympathetic, over-drive state. Being stuck can come from feeling like we have too much to do, being emotionally overwhelmed, frustrated, anxious, or worrying which is focusing on a possible negative outcome for a situation that has not yet occurred.
There can also be physical stress due to your body being out of balance from things you have control of like the lack of enough good quality sleep, blood sugar fluxuations from skipping meals or eating too much sugar, getting cold with the seasonal temperature changes, or excess electromagnetic stress from cell phones, computers and wifi. Physical stresses you would have less control of are things like air pollution, freeway noise, injuries, and chronic physical conditions you have not found solutions for. We can generally handle a few of these things, but the more we add the more the adrenal glands have to work until finally the body is not able to balance the excess cortisol production and we become hyperactive and irritable. This is what is typically known as stress.
How do we deal with this mess?
The obvious answer is one step at a time, starting with the easiest, most apparent things first. Things that make a big difference include:
Limit the sugar and alcohol. It is a challenge, especially during the holidays, because this is a time when we typically give ourselves permission to indulge in foods we only eat once a year, like those special, traditional holiday treats. It is not necessary to totally abstain, but indulge in moderation, like eat a few bites of different deserts rather than large pieces of everything.
Make sure your other meals are as clean as possible, emphasizing the vegetables and foods that support your particular body type. Beets top the list of liver cleansing foods and can be consumed in a variety of ways. You could do a cleanse day once a week, or even once a month, consisting primarily of fruits and vegetables. Refer to the Sample Cleanse Menu for your particular body type (Profile & Diet booklet for your body type) for the foods that will best support you.
Sea salt in the shower. Using sea salt in your shower is like going to the ocean, except it is quick, warm, and fresh water. Simply get wet and put a little bit of sea salt on your chest and solar plexus and rinse it off. This will do more for clearing your energy field than anything else I have found. It is most profound when you have had an emotional encounter you have not been able to release. When do you use the sea salt in the shower? Whenever you are going though anything emotional or are around anyone else who is going through anything emotional, which is essentially all the time. I keep a plastic cup with sea salt in my shower, and make it a standard part of my daily routine. Whenever I shampoo my hair, I put sea salt on the back of my head.
Essential oils to deal with unresolved emotional issues
Ever wonder why you seem to pick up and take on other people’s unresolved emotional issues? It is because you still have an element of that unresolved emotion in you. We are all aware of the negative side of emotions, and the positive side is some vague thing out there somewhere. How can you ever expect to change a negative emotion if you do not know what you want to change it to, or why you are attracting it? I wrote “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils” to address this very problem.
For example, we are all aware of how it feels when someone is angry at us, or even being around someone who is angry about something else, and how it feels when we are angry. We learn early on that it is not safe for us to express our anger, so we need to figure out how to deal with our anger. Physical activity like exercise is one way, but it does not resolve the issue, and it is not always practical at the time, especially in the moment of being triggered. Another option is to internalize your anger, but research has shown that internalized anger is directly associated with cancer, so this obviously is not a viable solution. Well, if you are not going to express your anger and you are not going to internalize it, what are you going to do? Since everything on this planet has a negative and a positive polarity, what is the positive polarity of anger?
You have heard many times, “If you want a marriage to survive, you need to learn to laugh.” Anger occurs when an energy path is blocked, like a child not getting what he wants or you being stuck in a traffic jam. Being blocked is not also bad, sometimes it can be a warning that would keep us from driving off a cliff and injuring ourselves. What needs to happen, is we need to get out of the situation and look at it from a higher perspective, like a traffic helicopter to determine the best route to take. This is what occurs in meditation. We are able to look at the situation from a higher or spiritual perspective. Affirmations affirm a positive solution; often what you want to incorporate into your consciousness. In the case of anger, the positive affirmation is, “My direction is clear.” The positive polarity of anger is laughter. Anger is stored in the body in the liver and can be accessed through the acupuncture alarm points on the body, hands or feet. Essential oils access the limbic system of the brain which is the seat of emotion and hold the positive vibrational frequency. Applying the appropriate oil on the acupuncture point and the emotional points, smelling it, feeling both sides of the emotion and saying the affirmation allows you to transmute a negative emotion into its positive polarity. This is a way to deal with unresolved emotional issues that keep resurfacing and intensifying year after year.
Videos are available on how to use essential oils for emotional release and the book.
Essential oils that are great for stress include Peppermint, Lavender and a number of blends including Stress Away, Peace & Calming, Sacred Mountain, Envision and RutaVaLa.
Peppermint is great for supporting and soothing the digestive system, bad breath, inflammation, insect bites, respiratory infections, sore throats and mental clarity. Use peppermint to release the fear of failure or restriction.
Lavender was initially discovered to promote tissue regeneration in the case of burns. It is good for skin conditions, insomnia and nervous tension. Lavender is used for criticism and abandonment.
Stress Away is uniquely relaxing and comforting.
Peace & Calming promotes relaxation and a deep sense of peace and emotional well-being, helping to dampen tensions and uplift spirits. It may calm overactive and hard-to-manage children. It reduces depression, anxiety, stress, and insomnia. Stress often arises from trying to control people and situations as a means of keeping everyone safe and getting things done. Life has a way of showing us that there are things we can’t control. The problem with control is that it is fear based. The positive side of control is balance and Peace & Calming holds this frequency.
Sacred Mountain promotes feelings or strength, empowerment, grounding and protection. Use it on your solar plexus to transmute mass consciousness, your throat for the fear of speaking out, or on the back of your neck if you are compromising yourself.
Envision is used when you are feeling overwhelmed and need to focus your energy.
RutaVaLa is a blend of Ruta, Valerian and Lavender. It promotes feelings of relaxation and relieves stress. Use when feeling frightened to shift into a peaceful state.