Dear Readers,

Control comes in different forms, and is something we all experience at times. This month I look at what Control is and how to balance it.

Peace & Calming Essential Oil can be used to transmute Control, a core emotional issue for several body types, into Balance.

Pituitary body types exhibit a childlike joy and love for life, even as adults. Take the quick quiz to see if you might be a Pituitary body type.

As always, I hope and trust that these newsletters help you enjoy a happier, healthier life.


Health and Happiness,
Dr. Carolyn Mein

Control - Understanding and Balancing

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What is Control?

Control is a protective mechanism the ego uses to feel safe.

When we think of Control we think of someone being “controlling”. That typically means somebody else imposing their will on you in some way. It can also mean “fear of losing control”, as well as loss of “self-control”.

All forms of Control are fear-based, and can disrupt the harmony in relationships and situations. We encounter it on a daily basis. Control isn’t necessarily “bad”, but it’s very helpful to be able to identify and understand it, put it into perspective, and handle it constructively.


Control Comes in Different Varieties

Control can be the fear of being controlled, the fear of not being in control, or the fear of losing control. The fear of losing control can mean you’ve lost your self-control, lost touch with how you really feel, your will or identity. It can show up as you not being honored, heard or respected. Control can manifest in one of three ways:

• Controlling other people
• Controlling the environment
• Controlling oneself

Controlling other people is the overt, direct form of Control. This may show up as, “This is what I want or expect you to do, and if you don’t there are consequences.” The unspoken form is anger, which is expressed unless you do what I want.

Controlling the environment is a common response to someone who controls with anger. It creates the feeling of “walking on eggshells” when you are around that person – anything to keep from triggering their anger. It can be used to control in the form of passive-aggressive behavior by creating situations or environments. Playing the victim can be an example of this.

Controlling oneself is about being self-sufficient, self-contained and centered. In this state, you are not able to be controlled because you don’t need something from others. While this may sound altruistic, it can lead to internalization of emotions rather than actual resolution.

Most people have a primary or dominant control style and then a secondary, default style, with the third showing up occasionally, depending on the circumstance.


Different Body Types Exert Control Differently

Each of the 25 body types has a unique personality, and experiences or manifests control differently.

The Stomach and Thymus body types are very strong personalities. They control by force, and are generally regarded by others as being controlling. By example, many top politicians and military leaders have one of these 2 body types. These are the strong physical/mental body types. Another example is the Adrenal, who dominates the football and construction worlds. The Nervous System body type is also a physical/mental, with a direct, harsh, confrontational type of control.

The next type of control – by controlling an environment or situation – is exemplified by the Skin body type. With the skin being the external nervous system, Skins feel everything around them, so to feel safe they want to manage (control) the environment and will often even add an extra buffer of weight to protect themselves. Skins are physical/emotional. Pineals, who thrive on sunlight, and are sensitive to the energies around them will control their environment. The extreme of this can show up as OCD. Pineals are spiritual/mental with the spiritual side showing up as intuition or being sensitive to the subtle energies around them. The Heart body type is a spiritual/emotional, and their form of control is more subtle – vying for control through their environment and timing. For example. they may take their time getting ready, or show up late and keep everyone waiting. Another example is the Balanced body type who will often control by controlling the conversation.

Controlling ones’ self is typical of the spiritual/mental body types like the Thyroid and Eye. The Thyroid body type who tends to be naturally self-contained, will often control themselves in stressful or emotional situations to minimize the drama. Eyes who are characterized by seeing things others don’t typically see, will make allowances for others and internalize situations with the thought, “I’m strong, I can handle it.” The down side of this is internalization of emotions is a form of self-denial.


How to Transmute Control

The opposite of Control is balance. Balance is knowing when to take personal responsibility vs. let the other person lead. This requires being in tune with the situation and with each other. While Control seems like a way of being safe, that’s an illusion. When you realize that you are safe, you can relax the impulse to control.

Your energy field affects others around you, so the more balanced you are, the more balanced those around you become. Working with essential oils on yourself is a subtle way to have a profound effect on those around you.

Essential Oils hold the positive frequency of the emotion and will shift the energy – applying the oils to yourself raises you to the higher vibration of the emotion. Because your energy field affects the energy field of those around you, you affect others and the situation. Control is stored in the stomach, and is a Core Emotional Issue for the Stomach body type. Peace & Calming is the Essential Oil blend for Control. The other side of Control is not being out of control, but Balance. Balance is the dance of knowing when do you lead by taking personal responsibility and when do you step back and let the other person lead. The way you get from Control to Balance is with the affirmation “I am content and blessed”. This lets go of your need to be in control in order to be safe and move into the love based Balance.

The reality is we all have all the emotions; it is just that some emotions are more of an issue for certain body types than others. The emotions that are more challenging are referred to as Core Emotional Issues and are associated with personality and life lessons. Control is a common Core Emotional Issue and is shared by the Balanced, Brain, Nervous System, Pineal, Stomach and Thymus body types.

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Women with Pituitary body type have a large head in proportion to the rest of the body, and generally positioned in front of the shoulders. They can range from petite to tall. They present a soft, child-like look, often with a rounded stomach. They generally retain baby fat over their entire body throughout life. Weight gain occurs all over and is like baby fat, especially around the knees, giving them a pudgy look.	Men with Pituitary body type range from average to tall, with medium-to-large bone structure. Their head is large in relation to their body, with a high, wide forehead, and rests forward of the shoulders. Shoulders are even with, or slightly broader than, hips. Torso and musculature are average and may be covered with a soft fat layer, moderate ability to attain muscular definition in torso.
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Celebrities with Pituitary Body Type include Jimmy Fallon, Sai Baba, John Gray, Lainie Kazan, Aretha Franklin, Albert Einstein, Michael Moore, Will Ferrell, and Steve Wozniak.

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I have found Peace & Calming and Peace & Calming II to be interchangeable, so for the sake of simplicity, I will refer to both as Peace & Calming.

Control is an emotion everyone deals with to one degree or another. It can show up as being overly controlling, being overly sensitive to someone else being controlling or needing to be in control, or even being out of control. The reality is Control is a protective mechanism the ego uses to feel safe. We usually think of control issues as someone who controls other people, however there are two additional ways of being controlling. These are by controlling the environment – often expressed as “walking on eggshells” around certain people so nothing triggers them, and by controlling one’s self. Most people control in two of these ways with one being stronger.

The reality is all Control is fear based. The other side of Control is not being out of control, but Balance. The way to move from Control to Balance, the “Way Out” is with the affirmation, “I am content and blessed.” This allows you to get out of the situation, rise above it, and look at it from a spiritual perspective. The oils hold the positive frequency and the body points – in this case stomach – release the energy that is held in the body in specific areas of resonating frequency. The emotional points on the forehead connect with the emotional body. I like to add the point on the top of the head for the Crown chakra, the Release point on the back of the head where the head and neck join, and the Filter points on either side of the occiput which allow you to process the energy in your energy field rather than take it in.

Peace & Calming promotes relaxation and a deep sense of peace, helping to calm tensions and uplift spirits. It is a gentle, fragrant blend of Tangerine, Orange, Ylang Ylang, Patchouli, and Blue Tansy with an aroma that’s comforting and freshens the air.

Suggestions for use include:

• Rub 2 drops on the bottoms of the feet and on the shoulders before bedtime to help you get good quality sleep
• Diffuse to calm overactive or hard to manage children
• Mix with massage oil for a relaxing massage
• Mix with bath gel in warm water for a relaxing bath
• Diffuse while sleeping to help stop nocturnal teeth grinding
• Rub on the stomach for soothing effect when upset or under stress
• Diffuse to help calm animals: rub on the paws of pets to help them remain calm when traveling