logo_dancer_c35.png Carolyn Mein, D.C.
The 25 Body Type System TM


April 21, 2017
Issue No. 46


Dear Readers,

I was recently interviewed on a podcast with Darren McDuffie on Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils. I also participated in a discussion on relationships with John Gray, author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus - the video is posted on YourTango.

How we handle disagreements within relationships contributes to the health and longevity of those relationships. That is the topic of this month's article, Why Some Couples Who Fight Last Forever - While Others Crash and Burn.

The Spleen body type is particularly passionate and intense - enough at times to overwhelm others. Read more below about the personality, characteristics and challenges of being a Spleen body type.

Clarity Essential Oil can be used to release the emotion of Guilt, which is a core emotional issue for the Spleen body type. Read below how to release this emotion.

As always, I hope and trust that these newsletters help you enjoy a happier, healthier life.

Health and Happiness,
Dr. Carolyn Mein
In This Issue:

The Spleen Body Type

Why Some Couples Who Fight Last Forever – While Others Crash and Burn

Clarity Essential Oil

The Spleen Body Type

Are you highly productive with a strong ability to organize and delegate? Are you tenacious, sticking with something until you get the desired result? Do you prefer to solve problems in a logical, step-by-step fashion, complete with details, structure and organization? Do you have the sustaining energy it takes to get something done properly and thrive on helping others complete their roles? Do you find your passion and intensity can be overwhelming to others? Are you fulfilled by social interaction? Do you like being the center of attention? If this describes you, you may be a Spleen body type.


The passion for the Spleen body type is Feeling Secure. Passion is what gives you the greatest sense of fulfillment, satisfaction and security. This is what makes you feel you are fulfilling your life purpose, that you are on the right path, and what gives you the greatest joy. For the Spleen, feeling secure is vital to life itself. As small children, they often will not let mom out of their sight, even getting upset when she goes into another room or closes the bathroom door. As adults, security is measured in the form of financial success and outward appearances like the biggest house on the corner lot, or even physical size with the security of having enough to eat. They love to eat and are generally excellent cooks. Their bodies are strong, they rarely get indigestion, or feelings of being too full from over-indulgence or dietary indiscretions. Consequently, food and diet suggestions need to be very clear, down to specific quantities, or they will interpret moderation to fit their desires, which for them can mean unlimited quantities. While losing weight may be important, the sacrifice is often too hard, unless there is sufficient social support.


It is the fear of Abandonment that motivates the Spleen body type to change and grow. Being physically dominant, Spleens connect with what they can see, what is tangible. The fear of abandonment shows up when someone is out of sight, focused on something or someone else, or deceased. The reality or other side of abandonment is at-one-ment, which means being at one with all that is. At-one-ment can be a difficult concept to embrace, especially when someone has passed on, and is no longer physically present, but spiritually, you know their soul lives on and you can connect with them. The gift of abandonment is found in the lesson, or the “way out”, which is: “I embrace all of life’s experiences.” Embracing all of life’s experiences enables you to find the gift in experiences that on the surface appear negative.

Core Emotional Issues

Core emotional issues for Spleens are Guilt, Abandonment and the fear of being Wrong. Guilt is the dominant emotion stored in the spleen. The other side of Guilt is Deserve and related to getting what you deserve. Guilt is often used as a means of control, associated with reward and punishment. All too often people associate getting what you deserve with the spanking they received as a child, rather than a reward for their hard work and the fruits of their labor. The path to Deserve is, “I learn from all of life’s experiences.” Obviously, what you have learned or have yet to learn is reflected in your life’s experiences and their outcome. Guilt can be released using Clarity Essential Oil.

Life Lesson

The life lesson for the Spleen body type is “to share energy”. In the body, the spleen stores blood and reclaims the iron from old red blood cells to be used by the new red blood cells. It is an important organ for keeping bodily fluids balanced. The spleen acupuncture point draws energy into the body to be disseminated through the blood as needed. The Spleen body type disseminates energy when they organize and delegate, making sure projects get done. Often “larger than life” Spleens love sharing their energy on a large scale by taking on large projects and group interactions.

Points of Connection

Dominant senses of the Spleen are mental and physical. Physically strong, with significant muscle mass and abundant energy, Spleens excel at getting things done, including social reforms. With their strong mental focus, tenacity, and step-by-step, logical, structured thought process, Spleens are well suited for bringing new awarenesses to the forefront of humanity’s focus.


Spleen body type celebrities include Jenny Craig, Jack LaLanne, Drew Carey, Christina Onassis, Maria Callas, Kelly Clarkson and Pitbull.

To learn more about the Spleen body type, see the March 2015 Newsletter.

Don’t know your body type yet?
Determining your body type is easy using my online body type test:

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Read a Typical Spleen Body Type Conversation ...
... to better understand how Spleen body types Communicate

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Why Some Couples Who Fight Last Forever – While Others Crash and Burn

The greatest misconception I have encountered in relationships, is we all think that other people think the way we think. I used to think that if I could do something easily, other people ought to be able to do it if they would apply themselves. The greatest discovery I made with the 25 different body types is differences in the strengths and challenges between types.

Strengths and challenges are directly related to each type’s points of connection; meaning, is your dominant sense mental or emotional, and spiritual or physical? Everyone has 2 points of connection, the other two are the ones we get to spend the rest of our life integrating and incorporating. The reason we have people in our lives that have other points of connection than we do, is to learn how to integrate and express the un-manifested parts of ourselves.

In relationships, we generally pick someone who has one point of connection that is the same as ours and the other point different. This gives us an area of commonality – where we speak the same language, and another point of difference so we can learn a new way of being. Consequently, our communication styles may be different.

The biggest difference in communication styles is determined by whether your dominant sense is mental or emotional. Mental is “I think.” Emotional is “I feel.” We generally stereotype men as being mental and women as being emotional because advertising depicts the classic male as the football linebacker (Adrenal body type) and the female as the cheerleader (Gonadal body type). The reality is there are Adrenal females, like Oprah Winfrey, and male Gonadal types, like Al Pacino and Robert DeNiro.

Bottom line is, mentals are more interested in facts and solutions than emotions. Emotionals, on the other hand are more interested in feelings and being validated. Being validated is often just being heard. When an emotional expresses their emotions, emotions do not have to make sense, be factually accurate, or current. In essence, you need to let them empty the garbage and not take it personally. Many times, the emotional outburst is a culmination of building physical, mental, or emotional stress that can no longer be contained. The hardest lesson I ever had to learn, was that you can NOT reason with an unreasonable person.

Emotionals need to express their feelings and then have time to process them, so taking time out is ideal. When emotionals are physically stressed, like being tired or hungry, the brain goes on vacation, so reasoning will only get an emotional response. Mentals on the other hand, want to deal with the situation, find a solution, and resolve it, so the problem does not reoccur. They are less concerned with the feelings and more with the resolution. Practical ways to implement this principle is what John Gray, along with a psychologist and family counselor, and I discussed on our YourTango video.

Relationships are designed to provide a space for unresolved emotional issues to surface and hopefully be resolved, transmuted or learned from. Most of us are all too familiar with the negative side of emotions. The positive side is generally some vague thing out there, somewhere; and we certainly don’t know how to access it. Then there is, “why is this happening in the first place, how do I prevent it from happening again, and what do I need to learn from it? “ To answer these questions, I wrote, “Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils”. I have also illustrated the techniques in my book with demonstration videos.

In answer to the question of why some couples who fight last forever, while others crash and burn, look at your fighting style and the style of your partner. Are both of your needs being met, what is the outcome of the fight? Ideally, you would like to resolve misunderstandings, learn more about your partner and make your relationship stronger providing a safe place to grow. Growing requires resolving core emotional issues and helping each other develop and express their highest potential. Knowing your body type allows you to know who you are, what motivates you, and where your strengths and challenges are. Knowing your partner’s body type allows you to know your mate and gives you greater understanding and compassion.


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Clarity Essential Oil

Clarity promotes a clear mind and amplifies mental alertness, improves mental activity, and increases energy when overly tired. Use Clarity for mental and nervous fatigue, sports competitions and emotional balance.

Clarity will help those who are resistant to learning new things or changing habitual patterns. It also brings the spirit and mind back into focus. It is a blend containing stimulating essential oils: Basil, Cardamon, Rosemary, Coriander, Geranium, Ylang Ylang, Bergamot, Jasmine, Palmarosa, Lemon, Peppermint and Roman Chamomile.

Other uses for Clarity essential oil include:
  • Directly inhale, diffuse or add 2-4 drops to bath water
  • Mix with equal parts of vegetable oil, especially if you experience sun or skin sensitivity
  • Apply 1-2 drops on edge of ears, wrists, neck, forehead, temples, brain point at front center of hairline or feet Vita Flex points (the brain point is on the large toe)
  • Combine with Brain Power, Palo Santo, Lemon or Peppermint essential oils to enhance the effects of Clarity essential oil

The specific emotions associated with Clarity are: Guilt, Repression and Emotional Stress.

For a demonstration of how to use essential oils to clear emotional patterns, click below to watch my video: video_oils.jpg

For more information on the use of Essential Oils to release emotions, refer to Releasing Emotional Patterns with Essential Oils.